Farewell?

Last post? haha..to be honest, I'm happy bout it :D..I don't really like to blogg ..

For my group I will definitely miss everyone, bala, sean, chirag, sheac yee, and of course fatinnnnnnnnnnn... I guess I will miss your english accent.. fatinnnn :D

Lastly, thanks human com for giving me knowledges and providing improvement for me.. and of course, a very special thanks to Mr.Murali..you are a cool guy overall.. generally, I like your way of teaching unlike other lecturers..it is like.. more outgoing? =D

Goooooooooooooooodbye human comm @.@




Steven Chan Chun Yean

Good leaders are in high demand and with plenty of career opportunities. That’s because good leaders are recognized as a valuable asset to any company or as a role model. So what makes a successful and effective leader? Leadership styles are learned from mentors and keys to successful leadership are often kept secret. Excellent leaders seam to be born but beyond the inherent natural ability they have, they spend years perfecting and developing those skills. You might say a combination of nature and nurture. Successful leaders have some specific traits that make them effective leaders. One of the most important characteristics to a leader simple and direct, and that is the personal decision to become a leader. The personal decision that you want to provide others with vision and inspire them to do more and do better. Someone once said it very simply. “A successful leader must choose to lead.” The question remains whether successful and effective leaders are born or grown, and are they a result of nature or nurture?

- chirag mehta-

A group is defined as small set of people who interact with each other, usually face to face, over time in order to reach goals. There are four types of groups which are learning groups, growth groups, problem-solving groups, and social groups. A clear example of social group is facebook. Facebook was founded by Mark Zuckerberg and his fellow roommates Dustin Moskovitz and Chris Hughes while he was a student at Harvard University. Website membership was initially limited to Harvard students, but was expanded to other colleges in the Boston area, the Ivy League, and Stanford University. It later expanded further to include any university student, then high school students, and, finally, to anyone aged 13 and over. The website currently has more than 175 million active users worldwide. Facebook recently surpassed MySpace in amount of visitors, making Facebook the number 1 social network, followed by MySpace and Friendster. Facebook users may choose to join one or more networks, organized by city, workplace, school, and region. These networks help users connect with members of the same network. Users can also connect with friends, giving them access to their friends' profiles. The website is free to users, but generates revenue from advertising. Users can create profiles including photos and lists of personal interests, exchange private or public messages, and join groups of friends. Facebook is now the best social group webpage.

- chirag mehta-

Listening and Hearing

What are the differences between listening and hearing?

According to dictionary.com Listening is defined as the effort to hear something and paying attentition.. while Hearing is defined as the faculty or sense by which sound is perceived or the act of perceiving sound..

Recently, I have do a research on types of listening mode and there are 3 types of Listening mode and let me introduce it to you..

1) Competitive or combative listening (it is one of the term used in our human comm class called AMBUSHING) -this happens when you are voicing out your point of view rather then listening to others and understand them. We listen openly to others to find other ppl's weak point so that we can attack.

2) Passive or attentive listening -this explains that we are more interested in hearing others and understanding the others point of view.

3)Active and Reflective Listening - In active listening we are interested in understanding what the other person is thinking, feeling, wanting or what the message means, and we are active in checking out our understanding before we respond with our own new message.

Gender prejudice

Do you sometimes find yourself saying, "Oh, it's not fair the boys always get to…" or "The girls always get to…" ? Well be careful, because that is gender prejudice. What do you want to do when you grow up?

º For a long time there were some jobs that were only for boys and some jobs that were only for girls.
º But that has changed now. Lots more girls are going into jobs in engineering, medicine, science, sales and just about anything you can think of that girls were never given the chance to do.

º Boys wouldn't go into 'girls' jobs, like nursing, teaching, hairdressing, modelling because they were thought to be not jobs for 'real' men!

Why? Well, it was thought that it would be a waste of time and money for girls to do any job that needed a lot of time to learn, because girls would get married, have children then stay home to look after them.
Nowadays anyone can do any job if they have the training and the strength to do it.


In many countries, everyone can choose what they want to do, and employers choose the best person for the job whether that person is male or female.

Of course there are still some countries where females are not expected to work outside the home.

Steven Chan

Racial Prejudice

In the 'olden days' maybe it was understandable that people would be afraid of another group of people who looked different, had a different religion and did things in a different way, because most people lived and died in the place where they were born.


People who always lived in the same place with others like them might fear that people who looked or acted differently may want their land or may want to hurt them in some way.

Nowadays, because people travel a lot, or go to live in a completely different country, or go to school with lots of people from different places, we should learn to respect each other's differences.But sometimes these fears from the 'olden days' are sort of passed along in families, and a kid may find that he is being prejudiced against someone of a different race, even though he doesn't know that person.


If some people watch something on the news or in a movie which shows someone of a different race or culture doing something bad, then they may choose to think that all people of that race are bad people. How silly is that?

Steven Chan Chun Yean

when worlds collide...its confusing.

Growing up, boys played a major role in my life. Through the age of 6 years-old up till when I was 10 years-old, I recall that most of my friends were mostly guys and maybe thats why I can relate to them and understand part of why they do things a certain way and what not. However, this mutual understanding of behavior and communication stops there. It is rather unfortunate that I cannot posses such ability to evaluate why communication is still a constant restraint for two people to commicate. Nonetheless, aside from gender being a major factor in communicating, culture also influences communication.

As i've mentioned, from what I noticed back in my childhood days, boys would tend to approach conflicts differently compared to girls. Studies have proven that children from preschool up to early adolscence have noticed that boys are more likely to be aggressive, demanding and competitive, whereas, girls would suggest propals for action. Verbal aggression and expressing themselves physically are some of the ways boys 'solve' conflicts. Moreover, the girls would scream, throw tantrums and most annoyingly whine.

However, these differences between both sexes still continue as we grow as adults. Men seem to think they have to sustain their ego and power by expressing themselves physically and worst yet, we have to endure listening to them cuss their way through frustration. Whats up with that? Alright, I do have a thing for cocky, 'men' men who occasionally swears to vent out, but all the time? It might be asking too much to sit down and listen but, we, women would love it if men talk. At least its a dyadic communication. Metacommunication is rare in relationships but it helps a lot at times. Although, men can't always be blamed as women too have their major flaws. During excruciating times in the relationships, women too would use verbal abuse, get physical and one of our main habits is to give the cold shoulder.

Furthermore, conflict not only ignites difficulty in communicating because of differences in gender, however, culture also plays an influential role on conflict. It is known ethinicty shapes a communicator's preferred conflict style ,whereby, those with strong cultural identitites tend to communicate more with those of the weaker cultural ties. The assertiveness between these two cultures differs too as the low-context culture and high-context culture is another factor that sets them apart. Low-context culture finds it very important that when communicating, messages should be direct and lateral, whereas, the high-context culture values self-restraint and has a tendency to 'beat around the bush'. This is perhaps why, the Americans find it hard to tolerate holding a conversation with Asians who 'beat around the bush'.

With these differences being the barrier between a good relationship, its no wonder how a relationship between two individuals of different cultural background would have trouble finding a conflict sytle that suits both parties.