perceptions can be decieving

My God. Aren't we living a complicated life. Why is that, we have this huge assumption which just tells our guts how deeply right we are about someone through body language or conversation? It doesn't matter whether or not the conversation was plainly heard by you or by another party but its the perception we have that blinds us from truly knowing the true content of the conversation. Not to mention the egoistic self in us which just simply sums up a person or a situation by perceptions.

Perception is what is percieved by others through activities which are caused by a few factors such as our narratives, perceptual tendencies, situational factors, culture and our ability and willingness to empathize. Now back to how our perceptions overrules our abiltiy to trust others and how egocentric tendency plays a major role in it too. Most of the time, we like to act like bigshots and with the constant use of equivocal words. However, I personally feel that most of us sometimes don't even know what we're talking about as apparently not knowing the content of our own conversation is not as important compared to how we appear saying it and maybe how we say it.

Hence, this is due to the situational factors which shapes who are when communicating. Degree of involvement, expectations, social roles and self-concept are one of the many situational factors which becomes a block to a civilized conversation between two people or more. Not to say that we're that superficial to actually care for the mere superficialty of how we are percieved but its true, thats just how we are! There are some that just comes off as, 'look, i seriously don't care if you pay attention to me or not, but this is what I've got to say,". However, the matter at hand is really more serious than it seems. All we want is to be accepted in society. Yeah, it would be nice to have a social ranking but there it is, the power of language! Our tendency to cling to our first impressions, judging ourselves more charitably and assuming others are similar to us is why we have a communication barrier causing others or us to feeling ridiculed, offended and hardly ever able to maintain relationships. Now, don't get me started on forging new relationships, since if we can't even tackle, empathize or maybe slightly consider other people's feelings, then we'll only have to learn the hard way to aid effective communication.


Nor Fatin Suraiya