interpersonal communication

communication between two people has got to be one of the hardest things to do when communicating. its easier when you are among a group but when its jus two people everything becomes different. first of all one has to determine who this will be more important to in the long run you see. i mean take datin for instance...there are certain levels and codes of conduct you have to stick to before gettin to the point of where you two are deemed a "couple". and thats where communication comes in. everything you do now matters and varies...you have to determine the distance you can keep,compared to the first time you meet a potential date and to maybe when you're on your fourth date. the distance will be considerably different,the intimacy definitely...she'l allow ou to hold her hand,hug her maybe light kisses on her neck...that kind of intimacy which normally wouldnt be acceptable on the first date. what also influences the rate at which the physical side of this relationship will grow is culture. whatever influence culture has on the two people at heart they will certainly take into consideration when the guy is "making his move".

but with communication it doesnt jus end there. after courtin the lady,we now have to maintain the relationship dont we? and what does entail us keepin the relationship alive? some say the dialectical perspectives" do help. these offer a connection and autonomy to the person. in every healthy relationship,people need their space and their time together. if this didnt happen or perhaps one happened more than the other the spark would surely fizzle out. also,what i feel is the most controversial of all,keepin secrets from each other. the thing is how do we decide what secrets to keep,and are we sure that keepin that secret is the right thing to do? do we sometimes underestimate the magnamity of the secret? i feel that the thing with keepin secrets it always starts of with the small ones and soon they become big secrets...and people do this only because they are afraid to reveal their true selves to their better half...but really,if they are with you already,why would they not like you for you!??! the thing is we are human...only human,so we are flawed,no doubt bout that. and sometimes we can see our flaws,and sometimes it takes someone else to see thing bout us that we dont see...or vice versa,we may see things bout someone else that they themselves dont see of themselves...the hidden and unknown self. it all depends on what we choose to show the next person..but sometimes even if we try hide that to them...they may jus see it for themselves.

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