solving problems in groups.

its never easy workin in groups,you encounter all kinds of problems and issues and because we are different people, the way we deal with stress or obstacles may vary a lot. another thing is some people may be more outspoken than others and others are very quiet and timid. personally,thats where the first najo problems occur in groups. people may bot be happy with the way things are goin but instead of communicatin their problem they keep it inside only to let their dissatisfaction turn to annoyance and thyen to anger and it wells up inside you taht when you do suddnly explode you can destro a lot of relationships with your group memebers. some peopl jus may not know the right way to express themselves and thats why they keep things inside. but the thing is we have to do,we have to talk bout the things that bother us when in a group, they cant guess whats wrong and it will ultimately affect the progress of the group itself. thats where learnin various problem solvin techniques helps in life. but its never easy attackin the problem head on. one as to plan and strategise the way to put it delicately so as not to offend the fellow group memebers. and believe me its never easy. livin in an appartment with friends well guys that i met here in malaysia isnt easy. you think you know the person long enough but life will alway throw you curves balls. there's always one issue after the other,maybe ine person isnt pullin their weight with the cleaning up,or the next person is always late with their part of the rent or someone doesnt help with the cookin, or maybe one person brings over too many friends who leave the place in a mess....every week we face all kind of problems,and for me bein the youngest uyet very outspoken sometimes it takes alil extra to be heard in our house! lol...but you see,thats where plannin and havin a careful aproach to it helps. you can explain your problem and you wont sound the least bit unfair or irrational in your explanation. also its good to have solutions to bring t the discussion that way whenn solvin the problem everyone in the group can bring forward their ideas and its easier to work on the problem. another problem we might encounte in groups is that we may find the leader unfair or worst case scenario the leader is lackin the qualities to be a good leader?!?!?! trust me its extremely possible...our group leader at camp was.....pathetic to say the least?!!? haha!!! what many people dont realise is that respect is earned not taken...if you're a leader then its imperative to remember that you treat your peers with respect and never try to be a tyrant...but at the same time dont be too passive or the team will simply fall into your ways and there wont be any progress made...and we dont want that now do we?!?!!? hahahhahaha...trust me at camp our leader was a little less than inspired!!! lol.

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